An excerpt from All About Love: New Visions (2001) by bell hooks.
How different things might be if, rather than saying “I think I’m in love,” we were saying “I’ve connected with someone in a way that makes me think I’m on the way to knowing love.” Or if instead of saying “I am in love” we say “I am loving” or “I will love.” Our patterns around romantic love are unlikely to change if we do not change our language.
Radical Discipleship 
“It’s in the act of having to do things that you don’t want to that you learn something about moving past the self. Past the ego.”
–bell hooks